The Autism Message Boards

One of the big Autism websites has a message board that I have been reading with a horrible fascination for the past several years. There are many parents who strongly believe they can cure their children of Autism with a special diet and chelation therapy. Many of them also believe that vaccines are what caused their child's Autism.

I am not one of those parents. However I am not angry at these parents for trying to help their children. I would never try Chelation therapy because I think it could hurt my child. I did however try Jefferson on the gluten free casein free diet for a few weeks. It did not change him for good or bad and he lost too much weight. I decided to do the diet with him and after 2 meals I was horrified at how gross the food was. So much for that!

I vaccinate my child because even if vaccine were the cause I would certainly rather he have Autism than die of smallpox or measles. Common sense guides me and also an instinct that Autism is a genetic difference, even a gift of individuality that my son has.

The reason this message board horrifies me is because the parents who have different ideas on treatments and therapies spend lots and lots of time attacking each other.I do not mean just arguing, but slandering and harassing each other.I wonder why they don't focus that time and boundless energy and used it to make their child feel unconditional love and support.

I did read Jenny McCarty's book with interest and an open mind. I am happy she is bringing more awareness of Autism to the public and I am glad she spends so much time and energy on her son.

Stop Bitching about Christmas you Ass Beetles!

I love Christmas! I am not ashamed to admit it. It is really the only time of year I can let my inner drag queen come out and play. I love red nail polish, Elvis Christmas music, glitter, tacky lights and sparkly plastic jewelry. It sharply contrasts with my New Englander preppie- minimalism.

As a lapsed Catholic I do put out the Nativity scene and I enjoy Christmas mass (the years I go anyways) since generally I only go to Church for Christmas and the occasional funeral or baptism.

I like being forced to slow down for 30 seconds and acknowledge the people in my life that I enjoy. My sons special needs teachers and van drivers, my coworkers who make my job a lot more tolerable. I feel a childish delight when I check the mail all month long and receive cards from all over the county from long lost friends.

So to you who complain about the commercialism, the expense , the stress of the Holidays. Sit down and watch the televised yule log while enjoying some nice panettone and shut the hell up. Merry Christmas!

The piece of garbage who killed my friend

I am so angry and frustrated. My friend Paul was stolen from all of us who loved him by an uncaring piece of shit who tried to flee the scene after crashing into him and did not have a valid drivers license. I painted this picture of Jenny and Paul for Jenny shortly after Paul was killed.

Article below from Milford Daily News

A former Franklin resident who was driving drunk and going 100 mph when he killed a Framingham man in an accident last year is going to jail.
Brian F. Harland, 35, was sentenced to three years in the Norfolk County jail yesterday after pleading guilty to manslaughter, drunken driving, leaving the scene of a fatal accident and driving on a suspended license.
He will be on probation for 10 years after he completes his jail term and his license will be suspended for 10 years after his release.
Harland had previously pleaded not guilty to vehicular manslaughter and other charges. He changed his plea in Norfolk County Superior Court in Dedham yesterday; he had faced five to 20 years in jail.
At the time of the accident he listed his address as 1 Garret Drive in Quincy.
At about 10 p.m. on Oct. 14, 2006, Harland was driving north in his Ford pickup when he crossed three lanes of traffic on Interstate 495 in Wrentham. He crashed into a Saturn driven by 21-year-old Paul J. Rudeen Jr. of Framingham, and then tried to leave the accident scene.
Investigators said that witnesses had to surround Harland to keep him from leaving.
He had had a history of drug offenses and at the time of the accident, his license had been suspended until 2009 because of a drug offense.
Rudeen was an aspiring standup comedian and the only child of Paul Rudeen Sr. and Sandra White.

First Date No No's

To expound on the list on yahoo some first date no no's


watching Clockwork Orange (thanks Chris)

finding a reason to take your shirt off

telling any story that involves vomiting or being arrested

telling me you hate Caddy Shack..total dealbreaker

Things that annoy me

tabloids that exploit adoptions by celebrities, there is a special place in hell for you guys,

people that talk on their cell phones in the bathroom stall next to me

Paris Hilton

very small dogs wearing clothing

the fact that petite length pants are still too long

The Joy of Swearing...repost

I love to swear. I do not swear a lot because I wish to preserve the power of a potent vulgarity directed at someone who is truly deserving.

I find that I swear most creatively in my car. I can summon up a rich river of vulgarity that would send my mother clutching her rosary and muttering about how I used to be such a nice girl. I am especially fond of cursing at wealthy Moms trying to steer huge SUV's full of children while talking on their cellphones.

I sometimes search on line for swears in other languages..I enjoy these a lot.The Dutch are very creative and enjoy calling people words for various venereal diseases. Geitenneuker is goat Fucker in dutch. If you have any creative swear word feel free to share them.

Hey lets go ride bikes.

I have wondered for a while if posting on twitter means I have the attention span to actually have a blog. I have some pretty heinous ADD and jump topics like a two year old on pixie sticks.

Rather than pretend I am all calm and cohesive I will just post my random thoughts and hope it works out.